Simply Wanderfull
Cooking is therapeutic, cooking brings people together, cooking is nurturing, cooking is learning, its social and best of all, its good for the soul. Food brings feelings of love and memories. In a world overflowing with noise, there’s one place where it all fades away: the kitchen.
The home kitchen is a comforting, familiar place to retreat and reset. I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about how cooking can be both healing and meditative. It naturally pulls you into the present—from chopping and stirring to mixing, sautéing, and plating. Cooking becomes a mindful process, and the true reward is sharing what you’ve created with the people you love.
Cooking Projects
I’ve always been drawn to the process of cooking, and at some point I began creating what I call “cooking projects.” But what does that mean, exactly?
A cooking project can be defined as: A purposeful, hands-on process of planning, preparing, and cooking food with intention—often to learn, create, share, or explore something beyond a single meal.
One of my very first cooking projects was making tomato sauce. I’m not Italian, but I’ve always admired the tradition of families coming together to make it. Thankfully, close Italian friends—and their parents—generously shared their methods and process with me. I bought the equipment and have been making my own jarred tomato sauce with my family for over 20 years.
Every late August, we gather—my mom included—to make sauce. Everyone has a role, and we end the day the best way possible: gathered in the garage, sharing a big plate of pasta topped with our cherished homemade sauce.
Great memories were made, a tradition was born, and the result was a beautiful one—delicious homemade tomato sauce. I was hooked and knew I needed to dream up more cooking projects with the people I love.
Here are the links to the recipes for my favourite cooking projects
These projects grew into planned cooking days with my mom and aunts—menus set, ingredients gathered, and a date made. We’ve cooked everything from Greek cheese triangles to grape leaves, homemade pasta, meat pies, and more.
Cooking with family or friends is about far more than preparing a meal. It’s about shared moments, gentle rhythms, and the quiet comfort of doing something meaningful side by side. In many ways, cooking together nourishes the soul just as much as it nourishes the body. If you find this all very interesting and want to delve into more about cooking as a therapy check out this book here: Cooking as Therapy: How to Improve Mental Health Through Cooking
I recently visited Sardinia, one of the few Blue Zones in the world. If you ever read about the Blue Zone way of life, it’s truly inspiring—people there often live well into their 100s. Scientists point to several reasons for this longevity, including diet, daily movement, and, the one that resonates most with me, social connection. Family and friends are woven into everyday life, especially in the kitchen. One Sardinian woman I met spoke proudly of how her family gathers every Sunday morning to make pasta together. How beautiful is that? If you want to read more about Sardinia check out my article here: Spectacular Sardinia, or you can also read about our cooking class experience here: Learning to make malloreddus my Sardinian cooking class experience.
Why Cooking Together Feels So Grounding
There’s something inherently calming about being in the kitchen. The steady chop of vegetables, the sound of simmering pots, the warmth of the stove — these sensory experiences gently pull us into the present moment.
When we cook with others, that grounding effect deepens. Tasks are shared, conversation flows naturally, and there’s no pressure to perform or impress. Everyone contributes in their own way, whether it’s stirring a sauce, washing dishes, or tasting as you go. It always amazes me how fast that everyone becomes comfortable. Then its like you get a rhythm for what needs to be done next. No task is above or beneath them. I love hearing everyone’s take on a recipe—how their family makes it, or why certain shortcuts are never allowed. Everyone just becomes themselves.
Connection Without Pressure
One of the most beautiful aspects of cooking together is how effortlessly it fosters connection. Unlike formal gatherings or planned conversations, cooking creates space for connection without expectation. Silence is comfortable. Conversation arises organically. Laughter comes easily. Stories are shared while our hands stay busy.
I remember laughing about my grandma’s Yorkshire pudding advice—she told me to add “½ cup” of salt, and as a new cook, I trusted her completely. The result was exactly as salty and awful as you’d imagine. Of course, she insisted she meant ½ teaspoon, and we couldn’t stop laughing. Moments like that remind me how the kitchen naturally nurtures relationships, simply by being together. It truly is something special.
Cooking as a Form of Mindfulness
Mindfulness doesn’t always require meditation cushions or quiet rooms. Sometimes, it happens in the most ordinary places — like the kitchen. Cooking encourages mindfulness through repetition and focus. Measuring ingredients, kneading dough, tasting and adjusting flavours — all of these actions invite awareness. When done with others, that mindfulness becomes shared. Instead of multitasking or rushing, cooking together allows us to slow our pace and engage fully with what we’re doing. It’s a reminder that calm doesn’t have to be complicated; it can be found in everyday rituals.
Many years ago, a good friend and I visited Miraval Spa Resort in Tucson, Arizona, where I took a mindful eating class that completely changed my perspective. We sat together and were instructed to take one bite at a time, set our forks down between bites, chew slowly, and truly enjoy both the food and the people around us. Looking back now, it’s amazing to see how much of that practice I’ve naturally woven into my life—mindful eating, shared meals, and meaningful connection. It brings such a sense of calm and fulfillment… and I still laugh at how quickly I felt full when eating that slowly.
Reducing Stress Through Shared Effort
Stress often comes from feeling overwhelmed or isolated. Cooking together counters both. When responsibilities are shared, no one person carries the full weight of the task. There’s relief in knowing you’re not doing everything alone. Even small acts — someone chopping while another stirs — can create a sense of teamwork and ease.
The act of preparing food together also shifts focus away from worries and toward something tangible and satisfying. You can see progress, smell results, and eventually enjoy the reward together. Julia Child believed failure was part of learning in the kitchen—and she was right. On our cooking days, when something goes wrong, it usually turns into laughter, teamwork, and a memorable moment we’ll never forget.
Creating Meaningful Rituals
Over time, these cooking projects have become a meaningful ritual. Planning the next cooking day, and what are we going to make or should we go out on a foodie shopping day. These rituals don’t need to be elaborate. Simple gatherings often carry the most meaning. What matters is the intention behind them — choosing to slow down, to connect, and to be present together. They become moments to look forward to, anchors in the flow of everyday life.
I really noticed this when my mom and aunt couldn’t wait to plan our next cooking project day. I saw it again when I was hired to teach a couple of women—who are now dear friends—how to make Greek cheese triangles. They loved it so much they kept asking me back.
I even took some friends on a foodie grocery shopping day, and they wanted to do it again and again. Creating and planning small rituals like these is so good for our well-being.
If you’d like help planning a cooking project, get in touch—I’d love to help you create your own cooking day. 💛
Cooking Together As A Form Of Therapy
’ve always said that cooking together is deeply therapeutic, and that we need more days like this in our busy, noisy world. I recently read an article I’ll share here—Kitchen Therapy: Cooking Up Mental Well-Being—and loved how it explored the connection between cooking, meditation, and mindfulness. I’ve seen this firsthand.
What’s now being called “culinary therapy” is even used in clinics and therapy settings to support mental and behavioral health, from anxiety and depression to ADHD and addiction. I’m not a doctor or a therapist—I’m a home cook—but I can absolutely see the benefits. And I’ll keep creating these special cooking project days for the well-being of my friends and family.
A Simple Invitation
If life feels hurried or disconnected, consider inviting someone into the kitchen with you. It doesn’t need to be complicated or planned far in advance. Start with something simple. Let the moment unfold naturally.
Cooking together is a gentle reminder that healing doesn’t always come from grand gestures. Sometimes, it comes from shared work, warm kitchens, listening and the quiet joy of being together.
In the end, the meal may be forgotten — but the feeling of connection often remains.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and share in this story with me. I hope it inspires you to gather in the kitchen, cook together, and create a few meaningful moments of your own.
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What a great article Jody I absolutely love our cooking days and definitely look forward to the next one. We have so much fun and make great meals. Love Ya and looking forward to our next one 😋😋
Absolutely! Love you too!💕